“Busy.” Since it is the most common response I hear to “How are you?” these days, I thought I’d look up the definition of the word. Here’s what I found:

  • actively or fully engaged or occupied
  • overcrowded or cluttered with detail
  • interfering: intrusive in a meddling or offensive manner
  • crowded with or characterized by much activity

Being busy can be a positive thing, as in the first definition above. To be fully engaged in something is evidence of focus and commitment, and in most cases will mean great productivity. It’s being too busy that can cause problems.

Busyness can turn into something negative – perhaps an overwhelming number of things in our space or too many activities in our calendar. This kind of busy leaves you feeling a bit like a deer in the headlights, frazzled and not knowing where to start.

This kind of busy most often comes from an inability to say no.  We say yes out of obligation, out of wanting to please, and often because we haven’t set clear goals.  The more clear we are about what we want to achieve and how we want to feel, the easier it is to say no to things that don’t fit.

As the holiday season approaches, there will likely be more demands on your time for social activities, for gift buying, decorating your home, and more.  Before subscribing to what ‘should’ be done, decide what kind of experience you want to have, and where possible, simplify.

What is your definition of busy?  Pause and give some thought as to whether your busy is healthful or a hindrance.